weight gain and bad psychiatrists

There are several things on my mind. Weight gain and bad psychiatrists mostly. I gained 80 pds while on risperidone. My psychiatrist  at that time said to me 'it makes you gain weight, but the good thing is you can't gain weight if you don't over eat. so just don't over eat' He blamed me for my weight gain. When I told him I wasn't over eating he told me to 'check myself'. I lived in a group home at the time and all I was eating was cereal or 2 hard boiled eggs for breakfast, then whatever dinner was provided. Once in a while yes I would buy myself a treat but 80pds?! After he retired I got a new psychiatrist and a new psychiatric nurse. The nurse told me that anti-psychotics mess with your metabolism. She was more understanding about the weight than the previous dr but still asked me if I had some emotional issues for the weight gain. If the drugs do mess with your metabolism why do people have to make you feel so bad about gaining weight? My group home wrote a letter to my previous dr telling him that I made excuses not to exercise. Well this 'excuse' was that they wanted me to go for an hr long walk. I did not know it at the time but I was developing bone spurs in my back that made walking sometimes very painful. Sometimes so painful I would have to sit down b/c I could no longer stand up. I felt that my group home and my dr were in cahoots to be uncaring. My dr. often called me lazy. I told him once that my ankles were freezing up and I couldn't walk properly sometimes. He said that was from being lazy. That problem went away when I stopped taking risperidone which causes muscle stiffness. So I was not lazy-I was having a side effect he should have been concerned about.BTW this dr. was quite over weight himself so WTF?

I feel that every time you go to a new dr or nurse they have different information than the last one. It's as if some don't want to do their homework and learn about what's current. They just slide through the day being idiots to us and collecting huge paychecks. This dr. told me I couldn't gain weight on that drug unless I over ate. Wrong. He said the drugs only cause stiffness in the arms. Wrong. Wrong about a lot of things. Plus just a dick on top of it all. But the Dr. in the hospital was even worse. I wont go into it now.